The importance of therapy and how to achieve a better life for yourself
The stigma that surrounds the idea of therapy often makes going to therapy and taking care of yourself mentally a struggle to those who need it. When people think of therapy, they think more of what others will say or think of them rather than the benefits of talking with a non-biased person about their thoughts on life. What people don’t realize is just how much mental healing can actually help a person. Contrary to popular belief, your feelings shouldn’t be kept internal. The more people continue to bottle their feelings, the more psychological issues will culminate.
According to potomacpsychiatry.com, therapy helps to alleviate your emotional and psychological symptoms, reduces entrenchment of psychological problems, helps to resolve your personal issues with guidance and support and helps those attending therapy return to a healthier status mentally. During treatment, the biggest hurdle most have to get over is “manning up” enough to face themselves and the struggles they went through. In doing so, they’ll be enabled to teach others, especially the next generation, a better way of life.
Part of therapy is finding a therapist who best fits you. Because having a therapist is now more common than people like to acknowledge, the best thing to do when finding a therapist is to ask friends and family if they like their therapist. This start will help in gathering a list of names to check out yourself. When choosing a therapist, you must remember that you want someone who is good, not just someone who is convenient to your time and place. A helpful tip is to get to know a therapist before you spill your guts to them. Ask where they went to school, if they’ve worked with people with issues similar to your own, if they’re licensed. A big one to remember when getting to know your therapist is if they themselves have ever gone to therapy. According to Tracey Cleantis, “if you see a therapist who has not gone through this type of healing process themselves, they truly cannot understand the place that you are in. Seeing a therapist who doesn’t do her own therapy is like going to a priest who has no relationship with God.”
Another thing to remember about treatment is that it’s not a change you can feel after one session. Laura Osinoff, executive director of National Institute for the Psychotherapies in New York, said that “on average a person can expect to spend one to three years in therapy.” Over that time, you will begin to see the change that therapy has had on your mental well-being. The way to see the most change through this time though is to do things such as set goals for yourself while going through this course of healing. Setting goals for where you eventually want to be with yourself mentally is a good way to move forward and work hard for where you want to be.
One of the most important things to remember in therapy, is to not be scared to say things. Being in therapy means you have a space safe enough to speak freely with someone who will not judge you-only help you with your situations and guide you on how to get through them.